Wednesday, November 25, 2015

tips for your first holiday with your SO’s family

I think most people can agree that meeting the parents is a little stressful. I’ve always dreaded it, even though I’ve never had a particularly bad experience. It just makes me nervous and a little uncomfortable — basically the same as meeting anyone new when you’re an introvert, ha! But seriously, meeting the parents can be intimidating, especially if it’s during the holidays, which is typical for new couples. If you’re planning to meet your S.O.’s parents during the holidays this year, here are a few tips to keep in mind:

Come prepared. If you're meeting the parents for the first time on Thanksgiving or Christmas, it never hurts to bring a small gift to say thank you. After all, they are welcoming you into their home for the holidays. It doesn't need to be anything big, especially since you're just meeting. A bottle of wine or even a nice candle would be a thoughtful gesture to break the ice.

Be on your best behavior. You want to be able to be yourself around your sweetie's parents, but when it comes to meeting them for the first time, it's always best to play it safe. Limit the PDA (most moms don't want to see a girl kissing her "little boy's" neck at!), mind up your manners at all times and try to socialize as much as possible. Parents want to see that you have an interest in getting to know the family.

Dress appropriately. And by appropriately, I mean modestly. It's not the greatest first impression to show up for your first holiday with the S.O.'s family wearing a short, low-cut dress. It might be the cutest new dress, but you should save it for NYE. You don't have to wear a turtleneck and baggy sweats, but remember it's better to leave more to the imagination when parents are involved.

Be flexible. Every family is different, and that includes the way they celebrate. Even if their traditions are totally different from yours, remember that you're crashing their party, so you have to be flexible and play along. This is also true for sleeping arrangements: maybe you and your S.O. cohabitate, but if the parents aren't okay with it, you should follow their rules.

Say thank you. Manners go a long way when it comes to getting in with the S.O.'s family, so be sure you show your gratitude by saying thank you often.

Are any of you planning to meet the parents for the first time this holiday season? What advice would you share? I hope you all have a fabulous Thanksgiving tomorrow, no matter where you're spending it! 

P.S. Thanksgiving table setting ideas, a gift guide for him and one for her

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